Buying out your spouse means you pay them for their share of the equity and keep the home. The tricky part is agreeing on what that share is worth. You can hire an appraiser, or you can agree on a number and move on, but get it in writing through your attorneys. Equity isn’t just market value minus the loan. Selling costs, repairs, and taxes can change the math, so a CPA should look at it before you sign anything. If you’re paying your ex over time instead of in a lump sum, that’s a private arrangement that needs to be documented carefully, and a lawyer should draft or review it. Sacramento County has rules about how deeds get recorded and what the assessor needs, so check with the county on the paperwork side. None of this is something to handle on a handshake.
Selling is the cleanest break, but clean doesn’t mean easy. You’ll pay closing costs, possibly some repairs, and you’ll split whatever is left after the loan is paid off. In Sacramento County the market varies by neighborhood, so what your house is worth depends on where you are, what condition it’s in, and timing. A real estate agent can give you a realistic picture, and a CPA can tell you whether either of you faces a tax hit on the sale. If you’re both on the loan, the sale pays it off and you both walk away free of that debt. That’s the main appeal. The downside is that neither of you keeps the home, and if there are kids, moving is its own kind of cost.
Comparing the three comes down to a few honest questions. Can either of you afford the house alone, including taxes, insurance, and maintenance? How much equity is really there once costs are counted? And how much conflict are you willing to live with? Keeping and buying out both require cooperation and paperwork. Selling requires cooperation too, but it ends the shared asset. Talk to a lawyer about the divorce agreement, a CPA about taxes, and a HUD-approved housing counselor about the budget. Check with the county on deed and recording questions. Take your time. This is a big decision, and it’s worth getting the numbers right before you commit.
For more on this, see The Split Deed.